By Keli'i Akina, my Discipler and Yoda *(additions by Tuese Ahkiong)
Throughout Scripture, we see God (the supreme leader) as FATHER. We see the families; people of God led by fathers. From Abraham, Isaac and Jacob, in the book of Genesis, through the appointing of elders for the New Testament Church in the book of 1Timothy, we see the unique role of leadership given to fathers. And, although our Lord Jesus Christ came not as a human father, Isaiah confirms his role as “Everlasting Father.”
The goal for the Christian disciple who is a male is to discover and emulate the qualities of Godly FATHERHOOD.
Based on the ideal of Godly fatherhood, a man should develop himself to fulfill the following roles. These are also the roles into which we must develop younger men through DISCIPLESHIP and TRAINING *Malachi 1:6
- STRENGTH- physical, mental, spiritual
1Pet3.17; Gen 49.3; 2Sam 22.40
- REASON - the ability to RULE one’s emotions by truth and logic
1Tim 2:14; Prov 4:23
- COMMITMENT- the ability to defeat fear by COURAGE.
1Chr 17:25; Acts 4.13; Acts 27.21-25; 1 Cor 16.13
- HONOR- the protection of REPUTATION, one’s own and of others
Matt 1:19; 1 Cor 7.36
- Capacity for ANGER and AGGRESSION against EVIL.
Ps 31.6; Ps 45.7; Ps 97.10; Ps 101.3; Ps 119.163; Eph 4:26; Matt 21.12-13
Eph 4.26; 1 Tim 3.2; Titus 2.11-12
STREGNTH, GENTLENESS 2 Cor 10.1; Phil 4.5; 1 Tim 6.11
SEXUAL DISCIPLINE Prov 5, 6 & 7; Job 31.1; Rev 14.4
- DEVOTED & DECISIVE Calling
Joshua 24:15; 1 King 18:21; Prov 4:25-27; James 1:8; Isa 6:8-9; Jer 1:2-9; Josh 1:1-9
- VOCATION - The Calling and Practice of WORK
Gen 3:19; Exod 20:9-11; Eph 4:28; 1 Thes 4:11-12; 2Thes 3:7-13; 2 Thes 3:10-11
- CHIVALRY, PROTECTION of and COMPASSION toward the weak
Actions which are practically helpful or symbolic of Scriptural Truth:
Open doors for women Let enter a doorway, elevator, etc. first
Remove hats indoors 1Cor 11:3-5 Wait for the woman to eat first
Pull seats out for women Treat woman like princesses 1 Tim 5:1-2
- MANLY STYLE & REPUTATION (Regard)
The MANNERISM, FASHION and SPEECH of a man should flow from the philosophy of what it means to be a Godly man, not from what the culture dictates. Concern over how you are regarded - 1Cor 4:1; 1 Tim 3:7; Prov 22:1
Being “like a man”- Job 38:3 Brace [gird] yourself like a man; I will question you, and you shall answer me.
Be MANLY and GODLY in speech, gestures, clothing, interests, independence.
- SPIRITUAL LEADER
1Tim 2:12; 1Tim 3:1; Acts 6:3
Malachi 1:6; 1Pet3.17; Gen 49.3; 2Sam 22.40; 1Tim 2:14; Prov 4:23; 1Chr 17:25; Acts 4.13; Acts 27.21-25; 1 Cor 16.13; Matt 1:19; 1 Cor 7.36; Ps 31.6; Ps 45.7; Ps 97.10; Ps 101.3; Ps 119.163; Eph 4:26; Matt 21.12-13; Eph 4.26; 1 Tim 3.2; Titus 2.11-12; 2 Cor 10.1; Phil 4.5; 1 Tim 6.11; Prov 5, 6 & 7; Job 31.1; Rev 14.4; Joshua 24:15; 1 King 18:21; Prov 4:25-27; James 1:8; Isa 6:8-9; Jer 1:2-9; Josh 1:1-9; Gen 3:19; Exod 20:9-11; Eph 4:28; 1 Thes 4:11-12; 2Thes 3:7-13; 2 Thes 3:10-11; 1 Tim 5:1-2; 1Cor 4:1; 1 Tim 3:7; Prov 22:1; Job 38:3; 1Tim 2:12; 1Tim 3:1; Acts 6:3
Malachi 1:6 6“A son honors his father, and a servant his master. If I am a father, where is the honor due me? If I am a master, where is the respect due me?” says the LORD Almighty. “It is you, O priests, who show contempt for my name. “But you ask, ‘How have we shown contempt for your name?’
1 Peter 3:17 17It is better, if it is God’s will, to suffer for doing good than for doing evil.
Genesis 49:3 3“Reuben, you are my firstborn, my might, the first sign of my strength, excelling in honor, excelling in power.
2 Samuel 22:4040 You armed me with strength for battle; you made my adversaries bow at my feet.
1 Timothy 2:1414And Adam was not the one deceived; it was the woman who was deceived and became a sinner.
Proverbs 4:23 23 Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.
1 Chronicles 17:25 25 “You, my God, have revealed to your servant that you will build a house for him. So your servant has found courage to pray to you.
Acts 4:13 13When they saw the courage of Peter and John and realized that they were unschooled, ordinary men, they were astonished and they took note that these men had been with Jesus.
Acts 27:21-25 21After the men had gone a long time without food, Paul stood up before them and said: “Men, you should have taken my advice not to sail from Crete; then you would have spared yourselves this damage and loss. 22But now I urge you to keep up your courage, because not one of you will be lost; only the ship will be destroyed. 23Last night an angel of the God whose I am and whom I serve stood beside me 24and said, ‘Do not be afraid, Paul. You must stand trial before Caesar; and God has graciously given you the lives of all who sail with you.’ 25So keep up your courage, men, for I have faith in God that it will happen just as he told me.
1 Corinthians 16:13 13Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be men of courage; be strong.
Matthew 1:1919Because Joseph her husband was a righteous man and did not want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce her quietly.
1 Corinthians 7:36 36If anyone thinks he is acting improperly toward the virgin he is engaged to, and if she is getting along in years and he feels he ought to marry, he should do as he wants. He is not sinning. They should get married.
Psalm 31:6 6 I hate those who cling to worthless idols; I trust in the LORD.
Psalm 45:7 7 You love righteousness and hate wickedness; therefore God, your God, has set you above your companions by anointing you with the oil of joy.
Psalm 97:10 10Let those who love the LORD hate evil, for he guards the lives of his faithful ones and delivers them from the hand of the wicked.
Psalm 101:3 3 I will set before my eyes no vile thing. The deeds of faithless men I hate; they will not cling to me.
Psalm 119:163 163 I hate and abhor falsehood but I love your law.
Ephesians 4:2626”In your anger do not sin”[a]: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,
Matthew 21:12-13 12Jesus entered the temple area and drove out all who were buying and selling there. He overturned the tables of the money changers and the benches of those selling doves. 13”It is written,” he said to them, “ ‘My house will be called a house of prayer,’[a] but you are making it a ‘den of robbers.’]”
Ephesians 4:26 26”In your anger do not sin”[a]: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,
1 Timothy 3:2 2Now the overseer must be above reproach, the husband of but one wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach,
Titus 2:11-12 11For the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men. 12It teaches us to say “No” to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age
2 Corinthians 10:1 1By the meekness and gentleness of Christ, I appeal to you—I, Paul, who am “timid” when face to face with you, but “bold” when away!
Philippians 4:5 5Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near.
1 Timothy 6:11 11But you, man of God, flee from all this, and pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, endurance and gentleness.
Job 31:1 1 "I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a girl.
Revelation 14:44These are those who did not defile themselves with women, for they kept themselves pure. They follow the Lamb wherever he goes. They were purchased from among men and offered as firstfruits to God and the Lamb.
Joshua 24:15 15But if serving the LORD seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your forefathers served beyond the River, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you are living. But as for me and my household, we will serve the LORD."
1 Kings 18:21 21Elijah went before the people and said, "How long will you waver between two opinions? If the LORD is God, follow him; but if Baal is God, follow him."
But the people said nothing.
Proverbs 4:25-27 25 Let your eyes look straight ahead, fix your gaze directly before you. 26Make level [a]paths for your feet and take only ways that are firm. 27 Do not swerve to the right or the left; keep your foot from evil.
James 1:8 8he is a double-minded man, unstable in all he does.
Isaiah 6:8-9 8Then I heard the voice of the Lord saying, "Whom shall I send? And who will go for us?" And I said, "Here am I. Send me!" 9 He said, "Go and tell this people:" 'Be ever hearing, but never understanding; be ever seeing, but never perceiving.'
Jeremiah 1:2-9 2 The word of the LORD came to him in the thirteenth year of the reign of Josiah son of Amon king of Judah, 3 and through the reign of Jehoiakim son of Josiah king of Judah, down to the fifth month of the eleventh year of Zedekiah son of Josiah king of Judah, when the people of Jerusalem went into exile.
4 The word of the LORD came to me, saying, 5"Before I formed you in the womb I knew [a] you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations."
6 "Ah, Sovereign LORD," I said, "I do not know how to speak; I am only a child."
7 But the LORD said to me, "Do not say, 'I am only a child.' You must go to everyone I send you to and say whatever I command you. 8Do not be afraid of them, for I am with you and will rescue you," declares the LORD.
9 Then the LORD reached out his hand and touched my mouth and said to me, "Now, I have put my words in your mouth.
Joshua 1:1-9 1After the death of Moses the servant of the LORD, the LORD said to Joshua son of Nun, Moses' aide: 2 "Moses my servant is dead. Now then, you and all these people, get ready to cross the Jordan River into the land I am about to give to them—to the Israelites. 3 I will give you every place where you set your foot, as I promised Moses. 4 Your territory will extend from the desert to Lebanon, and from the great river, the Euphrates—all the Hittite country—to the Great Sea [a] on the west. 5 No one will be able to stand up against you all the days of your life. As I was with Moses, so I will be with you; I will never leave you nor forsake you.
6 "Be strong and courageous, because you will lead these people to inherit the land I swore to their forefathers to give them. 7 Be strong and very courageous. Be careful to obey all the law my servant Moses gave you; do not turn from it to the right or to the left, that you may be successful wherever you go. 8 Do not let this Book of the Law depart from your mouth; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful. 9Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go."
Genesis 3:19 19By the sweat of your brow you will eat your food until you return to the ground, since from it you were taken; for dust you are and to dust you will return."
Exodus 20:9-119Six days you shall labor and do all your work, 10but the seventh day is a Sabbath to the LORD your God. On it you shall not do any work, neither you, nor your son or daughter, nor your manservant or maidservant, nor your animals, nor the alien within your gates. 11 For in six days the LORD made the heavens and the earth, the sea, and all that is in them, but he rested on the seventh day. Therefore the LORD blessed the Sabbath day and made it holy.
Ephesians 4:28 28He who has been stealing must steal no longer, but must work, doing something useful with his own hands, that he may have something to share with those in need.
1 Thessalonians 4:11-12 11Make it your ambition to lead a quiet life, to mind your own business and to work with your hands, just as we told you, 12so that your daily life may win the respect of outsiders and so that you will not be dependent on anybody.
2 Thessalonians 3:7-137For you yourselves know how you ought to follow our example. We were not idle when we were with you, 8nor did we eat anyone's food without paying for it. On the contrary, we worked night and day, laboring and toiling so that we would not be a burden to any of you. 9We did this, not because we do not have the right to such help, but in order to make ourselves a model for you to follow. 10For even when we were with you, we gave you this rule: "If a man will not work, he shall not eat."
11We hear that some among you are idle. They are not busy; they are busybodies. 12Such people we command and urge in the Lord Jesus Christ to settle down and earn the bread they eat. 13And as for you, brothers, never tire of doing what is right.
2 Thessalonians 3:10-1110For even when we were with you, we gave you this rule: "If a man will not work, he shall not eat."
11We hear that some among you are idle. They are not busy; they are busybodies.
1 Timothy 5:1-2 1Do not rebuke an older man harshly, but exhort him as if he were your father. Treat younger men as brothers, 2older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity.
1 Corinthians 4:1 1So then, men ought to regard us as servants of Christ and as those entrusted with the secret things of God.
1 Timothy 3:77He must also have a good reputation with outsiders, so that he will not fall into disgrace and into the devil's trap.
Proverbs 22:11A good name is more desirable than great riches; to be esteemed is better than silver or gold.
Job 38:3 3 Brace yourself like a man; I will question you, and you shall answer me.
1 Timothy 2:1212I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man; she must be silent.
1 Timothy 3:11Here is a trustworthy saying: If anyone sets his heart on being an overseer,[a] he desires a noble task.
Acts 6:33 Brothers, choose seven men from among you who are known to be full of the Spirit and wisdom. We will turn this responsibility over to them.
Proverbs 5, 6, 7